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[Music] in this episode we're gonna be talking about the power of letting go how to overcome clinginess attachment and obsessive-compulsive disorders I'm gonna share with you a very simple technique that's all this episode is it's just a simple technique lot a lot of complicated theory here just a technique but this one technique if you apply it in your life will transform your whole life but the key to this technique is that you don't just do it once there's not a bunch of work that if I sit down and do right now rather what I want you to do is I want you to take this on as a technique for the rest of your life that you do a little bit of every single day just for a few seconds for a few minutes every single day and then you make a habit out of it and then if you do that that's what will transform your life this is not something that you can just run off and do five hours of this is something that you just have you have to do it daily over years and then it'll transform your life so the technique is very simple you identify something within your experience anything and you let it go that's the whole technique you let go of desires needs attachments frustrations emotions grudges habits thoughts obsessions and so forth that's it but here's a little trick that I'll give you and I'll give you a list of examples of how to apply this in him in a minute here but here's what I want to do I want you to turn this into a game that you play with yourself from now on all through the rest of life you're gonna be playing this little game you're gonna be challenging yourself to let stuff go just for the sake of letting it go not because it's gonna get you a bunch of money or not because you're gonna feel super happy and excited about it but just you're practicing letting go you're flexing that letting go muscle and it's a muscle that most people have not consciously used in their life because nobody taught you that you could just let stuff go that's that's a huge realization for most people it's like what you can just let go of anger you can just let go of sadness you can just let go of some neurotic compulsion you have and the answer is yes but you have to practice so you gonna be playing this little game with yourself and I'm gonna see how far you can push it some days you're gonna try to let go something big that might seem like Critias crazy that you couldn't let go of and then other days you're just gonna be mostly letting go of little things and don't worry about not being able to let go of everything you try to let go of some stuff is gonna be big and it's gonna be too powerful inside your mind and you're gonna be stuck on it and then you won't be able let it go like if you're feeling very depressed yeah maybe you won't be able to let it go at first and that's okay mostly gonna be starting with small stuff so here's a list of examples for you and remember the reason I'm trying to frame this has like a little game that you play with yourself I don't want this to be some giant sure that you're forcing yourself to do some deliberate method you just have to like make it natural make it organic make it something that you do like when you're standing in line waiting for for the cashier or at the grocery store or when you're pumping gas the gas station got nothing to do instead of checking your phone just play a little game for 30 seconds for 60 seconds of letting something go maybe you don't like the smell of the gasoline let it go and so here are some examples on top of that one there's an itch on your face normally you would want to scratch it or you would have some opinion or judgment about it like oh it's this isn't good why is my face sitting here what you do is you notice it and that's one of the keys to this technique is that before you can let something go you first have to feel it and notice that it's a thing at all this is consciousness work a little bit of consciousness work so you have to rather than just instinctively scratching an itch the way that you normally would do here you like you have to first pause and notice okay there's an itch and then you have to notice that old there's an automatic reaction it's gonna usually happen I'm gonna scratch it in here you just let it go you notice that you have this sort of desire to scratch and that's the thing that you let go or let's say you're at a restaurant you order your food and something about your food doesn't come out right they get part of your order wrong normally you would want to sighs the waitress complained get it changed blah-blah-blah-blah-blah in your mind there'd be this whole thing about like oh oh my food isn't the way I wanted to this sucks it's ruin my night whatever just let it go but again you have to catch yourself right because because all of these patterns that are gonna be letting go up here they're all gonna be very instinctual and habitual and automatic and you're gonna execute them so fast that a lot of times you won't be able to catch yourself soon enough you'll start to complain before you even realize that you're complaining and then that's that's when you notice and then the next time let it go you don't need to be perfect at this just because you know you're gonna have hundreds of these opportunities throughout the day I'm not saying you have to capitalize on every single opportunity I'm just saying a few per day that's all a few per day very easy a child can do it in fact if you have children you should teach them this technique let's say someone cuts you off in traffic when you're driving to work normally you would like have a story in your mind about oh this is a bad guy and how could he do this and what an [ __ ] what what bad city I live in the drivers suck here all this just notice that and then let that go and when you let something go what happens is that you return to a state of peace and just a state of being a state of calmness you're no longer agitated by that thing that was bothering you or let's say you're listening to the radio in your car there and some song comes on that you hate normally you would complain or maybe you would even want to quickly switch the station or judge the song just try it letting it go let the song play let go of your desire to need to change the song or to complain about the Sun just let it go or let's say somebody criticizes you in some online comment on some forum via Twitter or even in person normally you would get defensive about it and you would try to justify yourself to that person and bla bla bla bla get an argument with them stop yourself and just let it go just let it go as if nobody even criticized you like that just as simple as that or let's say you have the urge to punch someone in the face because they pissed you off notice it and let that go and I'm not saying here per se that you're gonna suppress anything or repress anything or ignore everything I'm telling you to let it go which is a it's a distinct letting go is a distinct thing from suppression and repression and ignoring so here you notice the desire or the tendency and you let it go which is a conscious choice that you make see that it's different than repression or denial or ignorance in which literally means ignore ants to ignore something ignorance here you're noticing it and you're making a conscious choice to let it go and you're not even you're not even thinking so far as to say like well I shouldn't punch this guy in the face so that's why I should let it go no no no I'm not giving you any kind of like selfish motive for why you should let it go rather in this game that you're playing you're just letting it go just to see if you can let it go that's it that's all you care about in this game or let's say you have some craving for some ice cream that normally you would indulge and here you just let it go like yeah okay I have a craving for ice cream right now can I let it go yeah I can let that go and just let it go and return to a state of peace the way you were before you had the craving or you get a sexual craving you get the urge to jerk off just let it go now again I'm not saying you have to never jerk off ever again in your life that's not what I'm saying I'm saying just let it go once you probably get the the urge to jerk off multiple times a day I'm saying just let go of one of those and not every single day I don't make a habit out of it just let it go you know randomly maybe let go of it a few times a month let it go the rest of times jerk off I don't care let's say feel guilty today for not having meditated normally you would guilt yourself over this and you would feel bad and you have a whole dialogue that you go into just notice the guilt and let it go or let's say your girlfriend or boyfriend or spouse does something to displease you they make a mistake or they say something nasty to you because they they were in a bad mood just let it go as if they didn't even say it let's say that someone insults you just let it go let's say you see some injustice in the news on the newspaper and on TV or whatever in the mainstream news do you see some some new outrage normally you get outraged by this just let it go even if it's something important let's say something important to you like you care about the environment and you turn on the news and there's some horrible news about the environment and normally you get outraged by in all those greedy corporations those oil companies you know they're screwing us over and blah blah blah let just let it go now again I'm not saying that now you never have any environmental concerns again in your life or that you ignore the problem of climate change and deny that it's real I'm not saying any of that I'm just saying let this instance of it go you see because this this notion of of climate change and environmentalism this is an abstraction in reality what happens is that throughout your day you have these little micro moments of you notice stuff in the news and you get outraged by it or annoyed by it or you get judgmental I want you to start to notice those micro moments and let those go let's say you feel a discomfort in your body like you're sitting for a long time your ass is starting to hurt or your leg is uncomfortable and normally you'd want to move just let it go well let's say you have a wish for something like you really wish for a for a brand new house or you really wish for a new job or you really wish for a new vacation or something like that just let it go which again is not the same thing as saying like throw away all of your dreams and just work your lame nine-to-five job for the rest of your life and don't improve I'm not saying that I'm just saying just notice when you're wishing for something and throughout the day you have your daydreams and you're wishing for something just let one of those go at least once let's say you're hungry in the morning let it go let's say you're excited about something let that excitement go like let's say you're excited about meeting up with your girlfriend or boyfriend because you're going on a road trip or something and you're excited and just let it go that doesn't mean you let go of the road trip you'll do the road trip it's gonna come but just let go that excitement let's say you're bored sitting in class or sitting at work waiting for somebody let go of that boredom or if you're meditating and you're bored let go of the boredom let's say you have the urge to check your phone you know that's a huge OCD habit that most of us have these days because we're so we're so conditioned to check our phone all the time let that go at least a couple of times a day just let go of that urge to check your phone that doesn't mean you never check your phone you can still check your phone just check it instead of checking it 25 times a day check it 24 times 23 times and do that consciously so actually consciously feel that urge to to reach for your phone to check your text messages or whatever and just let that go you're sitting in a room you're feeling hot or cold and you're annoyed by that let that go you're too sweaty let that go and speaking of OCD you know there's a lot of different Oh CDs that people have these days and a lot of them are very minor this technique will work for big OCD stuff or a little OCD stuff like maybe you're a grammar nazi you're reading something and some you see some grammar mistake that somebody wrote online somewhere in some news article and normally you get like oh ha you got annoyed by it just let it go that's really the key to to overcoming OCD is just noticing that urge and then letting it go and then doing that over and over and over and over again of course if you got some terrible OCD it's gonna be difficult to do you won't be able to just do it on your first attempt will probably take you hundreds of attempts but each time you do that you chip away at it next example let's say a co-worker does something wrong at work and normally you'd want to criticize and um I'm out about it just let it go let's say somebody is being ignorant and normally you'd want to you know also chide this person out for their foolishness and their ignorance just let it go allow ignorant to be ignorance without having it affect you let's say you notice that you judge somebody for something let that go like maybe you you're driving down the road you see a poor person panhandling for four quarters and normally you would judge that person say oh look at this dirty bum why doesn't he get a job bla bla bla bla bla just let that go or maybe you see that that person you feel guilty you feel guilty that all society isn't doing enough to help these poor homeless people let that go let's say you're in school or in college and you just you don't feel like doing your homework today let that go let's say you're obsessing about what somebody thinks about you you want to gain their approval let that go catch yourself thinking about how others are perceiving you when you're out in public you're at a party or at a club or at a bar talking to a girl talking to a guy whatever you're nervous let that go let's say a friend of yours snubs you let that go let's say somebody doesn't show up on time for a business meeting or you're just meeting friend a friend for coffee or for drinks and they're 10 minutes late it's 20 minutes late just let it go just to see if you can do it let's say you feel inadequate you're at work and there's somebody at work who's way better than you more experienced has more Skills more intelligent and you feel inadequate about this let that go let's see let's say in the morning you look in the mirror and you see a pimple on your face and normally you'd be annoyed by this pimple you try to hide it you try to change it you try to ask yourself what's going on why did this people come where'd it come from let it go or let's say you're worried about how you look whether you're a guy or a girl whatever we all have our own insecurities about our looks you don't like your face you like your body you don't like your whatever let it go let's say you feel like quitting on some project let that feeling go let's say you're rushing to be on time you're kind of late and you're rushing to get to work rushing to to jump in your car rushing to drive through some yellow light let that go let's say you've got some worries about your finances let it go let's say you feel some tension in your body there's some tension in your hands in your jaw and your legs and your belly feel that tension notice it and let it go let's say you have the urge to lie because it would be beneficial for you to lie in this situation like at work maybe there's an opportunity to lie to a client order to get the sale let go of that desire to lie or let's say you have the desire to cheat or to steal there's many different ways you can cheat in life many different ways in which you can steal stuff let that go or let's say you have the desire to manipulate somebody let that go but of course that's tricky because in order to let that go you have to first be aware of your own manipulations how you manipulate people see most people don't understand how much they manipulate others all the time so you see for this technique to work you really have to be more aware of all of your actions throughout the day on a sort of a micro level which is part of the power of this technique let's say you want to have the last word in some argument let that go let's say you have a need for for this thing to be perfect whatever you're creating whatever you're working on some work of art some music that you're composing or something at work that you're doing or some some book that you're writing or some you know some article you're writing they're gonna publish you just want it to be so perfect let that go let's say you want to impress somebody you want to please somebody so they like you let that go let's say there's some physical pain in your body that you're resisting let that go or what if you are distracting yourself like you sit down to do some work you sit down to write something you sit down to do your homework or you sit down to do some self-improvement work like you're journaling in your journal and then there's a desire to distract yourself with some television some video games some looking at your phone some internet whatever notice that distraction and let that go let's say you feel self-conscious in public let that go let's say you feel bad for doing something wrong for making a mistake at work or whatever let that go or if you feel embarrassed let that go or if you're confused maybe you're watching some of my videos and I leave you confused sometimes let that go let's say you feel threatened by somebody else let it go let's say you smell something disgusting in your refrigerator or wherever let that go now okay I don't mean that you don't ever clean your refrigerator I just mean let go of that that disgust let's say you feel depressed try letting that go and also it can be very powerful to just try to sometimes let go of really big things things that you would normally think couldn't be let go of and usually of course these big things can't just be like oh of in a second or a minute but you can still try and it helps like for example try to let go of your entire point of view on a matter or your entire worldview or your entire ideology as a whole like if you're a conservative try to just let go of conservativism that's a tall order to fill for many people or if you're a liberal try to let go of liberalism just like have you tried actually do it try it even just let it go for five minutes and see if that sticks and then you could you could pick it back up five minutes later but try letting go for 5 min to see the problem when people get stuck on ideology is that they're so stuck on it that they don't want to let it go try letting go of your entire religion like if you're Muslim try to let go of Islam for five minutes completely let it go as though you don't believe in it at all or if you're Christian completely let go of Christianity as though you don't believe in it at all become an atheist for five minutes can you do that can you see that if you can't do that can you see how wrong that is now see here religious fundamentalists and these types they'll say olio but but I really believe in this stuff now you're you're asking me to go against my faith and against my tradition and against my morals and all this but you see what is your faith in your morals and your God what is it worth if you can't let it go for five minutes if you're so stuck on these ideas and beliefs and this ideology see you've confused it from the real thing you've confused your your ideology for actual true love and compassion and for the reality you've confused that see real God doesn't mind if you let go of the idea of God for five minutes can real God's not threatened by that Allah is not threatened by you not believing in Allah for five minutes if you think he is then you don't really understand Allah and you should you should Intuit that there's something wrong with you if you can't do that this doesn't make you some atheist or some-some devil or some nihilist this ability to let things go this is critical to all true religion to true spirituality this is what a healthy mind can do an unhealthy mind cannot do this which is the whole reason why you adopt and cling to this religion or to this ideology or it's this political position try to let go of your national identity like if you think you're American just let it go pretend that you're not American for five minutes see how that feels see there's actually what you'll discover if you do let go is that there's actually no problem whatsoever and this is something you'll notice like if you let go being Christian there's no problem nothing bad is gonna happen to you if you let go being Muslim nothing Bad's gonna happen to you if you let go of being American or or white or black or whatever nothing bad is gonna happen to you but the whole problem is that you're so scared you're so attached to these identities into these ideas and it's so habitual that you're afraid to let it go even for five minutes see but that's just a story you have in your mind about all the fears and all the bad stuff like you're gonna go to hell if you let it go no not at all so just this'n trained yourself through this method you're gonna train yourself over the months and years that letting go is perfectly safe normal and actually very healthy and that all of the fear-mongering that your mind does about all the stuff that's gonna go wrong if you do let go then see you're gonna disprove that not through theory but through direct experience you're gonna see that oh well I've let this go and I've let that go look at how much stuff I've let go throughout my life and nothing bad has really happened to me so therefore letting go isn't bad in fact actually it's good it's the best good it's the highest good and lastly I would urge you to experiment with letting go of prized physical objects like maybe you have a favorite pen a favorite mug a favorite t-shirt a favorite set of shoes a favorite hat it was a small stuff I'm not asking you to let go of your of your luxury yacht and by letting go of it also notice I don't mean that you throw this object away that you never use it I mean you notice your attachment and love for this object and you let that attachment go which means that if you have a lucky hat that you wear all the time maybe one day you don't wear it you just let that go and you even let go of the idea that you need this hat around you and then somehow it's important to you or somehow that if you lost this hat you would be sad or you just let that let that whole thing go as though this hat doesn't matter to you anymore and maybe you know try with your car as well if you have some sports car that you love and try this with prize ideas and theories that you have maybe you have some scientific theory that you you know you little pet theory about quantum mechanics let that go or you have your little pet fear about evolution let that go and so you can see now all the different ways that this technique work those are my examples for you now of course you're wondering Billy oh how how do I let it go you make it sound so easy well it is that easy just let it go you notice the thing and then you just drop it and what helps me to do this and here's a little trick for you if you want to know how is actually visualize yourself dropping it and entering a state of peace and the way that I sometimes do this is I almost do it like I imagine sort of a role model in my mind and usually I think back to like a Greek philosopher like Socrates or Marcus Aurelius you know I think about like if something bad happened to Socrates how would he react to it would he get like all [ __ ] dramatic about it and [ __ ] and moan and complain about what do you just be like oh well okay screw it doesn't matter and just like return to a state of calm that's how I imagine Socrates would react you know if something happened in his life so just literally imagine that and imagine that you're that person just letting it go and you don't have to use Socrates use whoever you want you want Jesus you want Mohammed you want the Buddha you can use that you want Martin Luther King you want Gandhi you know use those people whoever you admire some stoic person you want to think of like Arnold Schwarzenegger as your kind of role model of stoicism uh yeah think about that like what would Arnold really like let's say he's on the movie set and something something happens like someone scratches his car and he's on the movie set what do you think he would care would he be like at all dramatic about it or would he be just like ah who cares no you wouldn't care right or at least that's what we like to imagine maybe he does care I don't know maybe he's a drama queen but yeah so you it's sort of like you're training yourself to adopt a little bit of this attitude of stoicism but you're not you're not really bearing the pain of it I'm not really asking you to endure some terrible pain I'm asking you to actually let it go that's a distinction that's this distinct to let something go means that it stops painting you like see there's a difference between if i insult you and then you just you take the insult personally and then it's painting you but then you're just kind of like holding it in and you're not saying anything you're just kinda like closing your mouth right but inside of you it's like I need to get back at him he insulted me like it's like you haven't let it go at that point even though you're repressing to let it go is like oh why is this thing even affecting me at all and just imagine letting it go and then that becomes the case now of course sometimes you'll imagine letting it go but then your mind will get stuck on it and it'll come right back at you again so you might let it go for five seconds but then it hits you again because you know the mind gets in these cycles and vortices and that's exactly what this obsessive compulsive disorder is a sort of like this cycle that you can't break out of because you're so habituated to it and literally it's almost like a computer porn name that they get stuck on a loop and it feels like your mind is doing that as well well that's exactly right your mind gets stuck on these things and especially if you spent years feeding these these cycles these cycles can get very strong and they can get difficult to break so just practice practice practice practice now the other objection people have yours is this butBut Leo if I let it go then I won't get what I want let that go let go of the need to get what you want be chill trust that the universe will bring you what you need in the long run and that you know you don't need to be neurotic to get it this requires developing some some confidence in the power of letting go trust that letting go will actually make you a more powerful person and it will this is a powerful principle I'm teaching you a powerful spiritual technique here really this is a technique of detachment detachment is counterintuitive letting go is very counterintuitive because the ego thinks that by clinging and attaching to things that it will get more see the ego is always needy it needs money it needs sex it needs food it needs ice cream it needs to delation it needs excitement and needs to feel warm or it needs to feel cold because it's too hot or whatever and so it always needs needs needs and it feels like it needs to grab and cling on everything to kind of get its way to survive and here we're we're going directly against this is a counterintuitive move we're trying to teach your ego to realize that oh I don't need to live life like that to be satisfied in fact I'll never be satisfied if I live life like that that's a neurotic way to live this teaches you confidence that teaches you poise this teaches you a little bit of detachment and stoicism the other question people have here is believe if I let go how will I get stuff done and this is where it's counterintuitive what I'm suggesting is that actually you'll be better at getting stuff done by letting stuff go like you might wonder if you're an artist you get a bit obsessive and perfectionistic about your art you want to be perfect and see if I tell you to just let it go you might say well leo but but I need to be perfectionist because if I'm not perfectionistic in my work then my work is my art is not going to be as beautiful and as perfect as it is and what I'm telling you is that no actually it's the opposite it's your perfectionism and your artistic neuroticism which is getting in the way of you making better art the best art is made in a in a relaxed state when you're in a relaxed State creative ideas come to you you get inspired and you're in a flow state whereas when you're neurotic and you're you're trying to force it to be perfect that's precisely the thing that will make it imperfect the other objection people have here is this one but Leo won't this make me a cold-hearted monster letting stuff go it's like you're trying to train me to be this Android that doesn't care about anything as it isn't affected by anything and I won't be emotional I won't be able to feel you're trying to like make me dead inside especially women can have this objection because of course women value emotions more women are run by emotions more and to women it feels like when we talk about detaching from emotions that feels like we're becoming hyper rational or logical or disconnected from feeling no that's not what I'm saying it's the opposite what I'm saying is that you feel into it you're gonna be more capable of feeling this is actually gonna help you to open your heart and to be able to be more loving and compassionate because you're gonna be less clingy and less needy so you can still feel emotions you can still be run by emotions at times but also I want you to get good at just letting it go let go of emotions this will make your emotions this will actually elevate the quality of your emotions your emotions will become more spiritual more sort of metaphysical and more detached in a good way not in a bad way if you practice this technique you won't be as run by your emotions but you're still gonna be able to feel and even feel more deeply because you're practicing being aware of how you're feeling that's how helping you also I just want to warn you that remember that I'm not saying you have to let go of these things forever just on this one particular occasion I'm not saying if to go around for the rest your life feeling hungry just because you have hunger pip hunger pains you know most the time when you feel hungry feed yourself but sometimes let go of the hunger I'm also not telling you to never enjoy pleasure and I'm not saying that you need to feel bad for indulgences when you indulgence in some some sinful pleasure and I'm not saying that you need to stop fixing problems like if there's a problem in your life fix that problem I'm not saying to ignore and deny and repress issues like for example if if some co-worker is is committing fraud at work and you notice that I could tell you to let it go and you could let that go but I'm also I don't mean that you just like let that person keep committing fraud or that like if your boyfriend is cheating on you then you just like let that go and then you're just like don't tell him anything you don't confront him and you just let him keep cheating I don't mean that I mean that let go of that hurt that you feel from being cheated on let that go of course that's gonna be very difficult to let go and practice but try to let it go at least for a minute let it go even if you do pick it right back up a minute later I mean then you can still have a conversation you can confront the person about it you see so letting go of these emotions and feelings and compulsions doesn't necessarily mean that you then don't do anything about the issue in fact this is a common problem people have is that people are such animals they are so run by their knee-jerk emotions without any separation between that and getting stuff done that over time over the decades they they train themselves to believe that in life the only way you can survive and get stuff done is when you're run like an animal by your emotions so it's like leo but how am I gonna close the sale if I'm unable to manipulate the client well there's ways to do sales without minute billion clients anyone said well but leo how am I gonna deal with my co-workers usually I'm angry at them and the only way I get it work out of them is because I'm angry and I'm pissed off and I yell at them and that's how I get my work done because you know they're making mistakes all the time and if I'm not pissed off at their mistakes then the works gonna be bad well the problem is is that you need to find a more resourceful way a more conscious way to deal with with your employees there you see anger sure it might work but it's only gotten you this far now how do you get to the next level not through anger anger is not a very effective way to get stuff done so you can still be very effective in fact you will be more effective by being detached that's the whole point but people are skeptical of this but I'm not asking you to trust me I'm asking you to try and to experiment run a scientific experiment in your life through this process and prove to yourself through direct empirical evidence that being detached is a better way to live and a more resourceful way to live and you will be happier in the long run and you will actually get more stuff done and the last warning I'll give you here is also this you can let go of fear letting go of fear is important it's a very common emotion we have as fear in various kinds of situations but when you letting go of fear you have to distinguish carefully between fear and caution so if you're in a truly dangerous physically dangerous situation letting go of fear you know don't make the mistake of like if you're if you're in a forest with a grizzly bear you confront a grizzly bear and then you just like let it go like no in that situation you need to also be cautious you don't want to be foolish so sometimes fear is alerting you to a legitimate threat to your survival but most of the time your fears are just overblown as they say false appearances appearing real false expectations appearing real so yeah let go of the fear but also you can still be cautious you don't need to be filled with the emotion of fear to be cautious about something all right like I don't need to be terrified of walking off a cliff to not walk off a cliff I can be cautious around cliffs without being paranoid or filled with the physical sensation of fear right so that's that's different feel I mean a fear feels a certain distinctive way in your body and then just being cautious feels different is caution it's not so much an emotion caution is more of like you're conscious that there's a threat here and you're gonna be careful about it but you're not reacting to some sort of chemicals in your body so make that distinction what is neuroticism neuroticism essentially is holding on to something and not being able or willing to let it go you're clenching onto something that's essentially what neuroticism is and we have we all have a lot of that in our lives so try to find those areas where you're neurotic and let that go now of course you're not gonna want to because what keeps you from letting go fear you're afraid of what will happen and also a sort of discomfort you don't want to leave your comfort zone it's almost like you're holding this little baby blanket that you're comfortable with and you don't want to let it go well the solution to that is to practice letting it go one final warning though this is where it gets a little tricky is as you're practicing this technique be careful about becoming neurotic about letting go so you might start to guilt yourself about like oh well I had some fear a minute ago and I didn't let it go and like all right now I'm feeling hungry oh I need to let that go and then next minute that's something else is happening I gotta let that go and you're always just trying to let everything go and then you're feeling bad because you're not able to let it all go you see how the neurotic that is so let go of doing that let go of needing to let go use this technique sporadically don't try to like be obsessive about it and do it every single time because you'll drive yourself crazy make it natural and organic your power as a human being is directly proportional to your ability to let go I hope you realize that letting go this is a superpower really weak people don't know how to let go neurotic people don't know how to let go crazy people don't know how to let go ideological people fundamentalists and these types zealots they don't know how to let stuff go people who get into bar fights why do bar fights happen simply because the guy's not able to let it go you're not able to let go of an insult now as you're practicing all this for a long time you will struggle with certain things you're not gonna be able to let go because you've clung to them for so long but practice anyways practice on smaller things other things you don't need to be successful at all letting go attempts and it's gonna take courage for you to let go of certain things like maybe you have this impulse to control your children to tell them what to do to tell them what to wear to you know this sort of overbearing micromanaging over micromanaging parent mode that parents go into especially mothers with their children try letting that go now that one's gonna be difficult because of course you know you have a lot riding on your children you've invested so much in your children you love them so much and you have you know you think you know better than them and you think you know exactly what they should be doing it takes courage to let go in that situation until let your child even if they make a mistake let them make that mistake or with a co-worker you don't see that takes courage not to micromanage at first this technique when you try it it's gonna seem kind of weak and it's almost gonna seem likely oh why did you even spend an hour talking about this this isn't a worthwhile technique tell me something more interesting tell me something more powerful this seems kind of pointless or it might seem impossible it might seem like leo but I can't let go of my children I can't let go of my car I can't let go of my job I can't let go of some terrible disease or some doctor you know gives me some terrible diagnose and years of practice before you're able to let go of really big stuff like that but since you gonna be practicing this technique for the rest of your life a little bit every single day from now on don't worry you'll get there there's no rush just keep practicing a little stuff at first eventually you'll get so good at this technique that it'll go from just the the mundane little stuff that you let go to like big existential letting goes and eventually what we're trying to get you to is getting you to the point where you let go of needing to be alive you stop caring if you're alive that's the key thing you want to let go eventually you will let go of your life story you will let go of self involvement you will let go of thinking and internal dialogue you will let go of worrying and fear you will let go of physical pain you will let go of major attachments to two people and things in your life like you'll let go of your entire career you'll let go of your business you'll even let go of things like your health and your physical appearance and you will have to let these things go you see you don't really have a choice in the matter because you will lose absolutely everything that you have in life that you cling to everything including your physical appearance your youth your your parents your girlfriends and boyfriends your marriage your career your job your money everything and you're gonna lose your life so really the option here is will you let it go willingly and consciously or will you be unconscious and will you resist the process of letting go because those are the only two choices there's no choice you're gonna have to let go of everything in your life because you're gonna die see so let's prepare you for that now see if you invest a little bit every single day it's almost like investing into a retirement account just like that you know they show you those charts where like if you start to invest into your 401k 20 years or 30 years before you go and retire then the the compound interest leads these exponential results at firstly to the first 10 years of investing you don't really get much out of it but then the last 10 years you get this massive spike in your wealth that's exactly what's gonna happen with this technique so keep using it and then the really big payoffs these really big items and ultimately letting go of your life that's gonna come towards the very end and that's where the real fruits of it will come and you'll notice that you know as you do psychedelics as you meditate as you do yoga and various other kinds of techniques as you do spiritual work as you do self-actualization work you'll notice that this technique will come in handy in all those different areas and then it'll come in handy in your family life it'll come in handy with business it'll come in handy with with your health it'll come in handy with your finances you'll see that this technique is so universal and so powerful precisely because it's so simple and so fundamental you see because all everything that's happening to you all these things whether it's in business or in family or at school or at work or whatever it has to go through you through your mind and through your emotional system so if you're able to let go of stuff in your mind and let go of stuff in your body various tensions and emotions in this way like yeah that's a superpower because that is the the the Nexus or the the bottleneck through which all of life comes at you from so if you're able to master that bottleneck and you're able to be the gatekeeper who is able to regulate that rather than having stuff just to cost you from the outside that's you taking control of your life that's you taking responsibility for your emotions and for your reactions and rather than reacting now you're able to respond and you're able to get some separation between the occurrence of the event and how you act that that gap it could even just be a 10-second gap is is what makes you a much a much wiser human being because in that 10 second get that's where the wisdom comes from and by not being attached to something by not being needy about it that's also where you can muster wisdom and then eventually if you do this you'll master this technique and you'll become invincible literally invincible but the only way you'll get there is if you can have enough vision to see that this technique can be powerful and that doing it a little bit every single day over the years is something that you're committed to something you you believe in something you find valuable this is an investment you have to make into your future so I recommend that you do just that and that you return to this technique over and over again throughout the rest of your life is not going to be any point in your life in the future where this technique won't be useful to you it can be useful to you every single day and every single year from now to middle age to old age and to your very death alright that's it please click the like button for me and 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theory is here to convince you to do the practice without the practices the theory has no teeth it's okay if you just watch these videos for educational purposes or even for entertainment for a few months or even for a year but after a certain point you've watched enough of them where you start to see you know the big picture starts to shine through at least a bit at least conceptually at least in theory and now you're starting to see that man this could really be powerful imagine if I started to do all the stuff Leo talks about imagine if all of the things he talks about weren't just theories but I felt them in my life and as if I started doing even half the techniques he says what would my life look like three years from now five years from now ten years from now this is how you have to think to be successful in life nothing in life can really be achieved by thinking a month in advance and thinking like well but yeah Leo I've done some yoga for a month and I didn't really get any results so I quit you can't you can't succeed in life this way you need to have a much longer time horizon you need to have more commitment to to these practices if you see the value of the theory create the vision in your mind a powerful vision of how all these pieces will fit together and they will make you an extraordinary human being but not within a year it's gonna take more time than that you might need to just spend it here just watching these videos and just reading some books just to just to be a little bit of a theoretical foundation and to get yourself bought into the idea of doing this work so your vision has to go beyond just a year five years ten years and especially for many of you who follow along you're so young you're in your twenties for [ __ ] sake this information is absolutely crucial and valuable to you this will make or break your whole life if you do this stuff start investing right now into your life the younger you are the more you have to gain from these techniques and stay tuned for more you